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If Jesus had a car thousands of years ago, you think he would've passed that up in favor of walking across the desert for 40 days?

My mom never told me not to talk to strangers on the Internet. If she had, my life would’ve turned out drastically different.

my own road trip through virginia

My dad wouldn’t have driven me—on his 40th birthday—to a golf course down the road from our house where I would, presumably, meet a boy I’d never met face-to-face. Running on pure faith that he wasn’t a child molester.
Well, maybe not that much faith. He turned out fine.

I don’t remember how it started six years ago. The beginning doesn’t matter.

What matters is that my parents have, for as long as I can remember, trusted me to befriend the right people. Whether they live 20 minutes or 20 hours away. Doesn’t much matter.

The fact is, I’ve met so many wonderful people through this crazy Internet thing. And a lot of them are doing absolutely awesome things with their lives.

But I have a little story about two of them for you—Lauren and Max—who know a bit more about blind faith than my 16-year-old self did, standing in a golf course parking lot on a hot August afternoon.

More than two months ago, Max decided to travel the country. Counting on the kindness of strangers to carry him from one end of America to the other. And about a month ago, he stopped in the middle of Ohio to pick up Lauren—a girl he fell in love with through the Internet—for the ride. The two of them are devout Christians with a love so intense it puts a lot of people to shame. A lot of people.

And as they drive through the country on a wild road trip that many openly disapprove of, I am giving them major credit. Because even though I have never met these two wonderful individuals, they taught me one of the most valuable lessons:

That Christianity does not demand perfection. That to sin is to be human.

I’ve lost my way, steering toward all the other directions in life that are screaming out with flashy lights and bright colors for me to come toward them. They’re more exciting, more real, more right-here-and-now-oh-yeah. I have trouble sitting still, reading a book that wasn’t published within the last ten or fifteen years, and going on blind faith that in order to be a good Christian, you don’t have to be perfect.

For some reason, it doesn’t matter that making mistakes is in our nature, or that I’ve heard people write that and tell me that hundreds of times. Even Miley Cyrus. Or should I say Hannah Montana?

For the girl who makes her share of mistakes on a daily basis – yes, daily – but has a boatload of trouble accepting herself for them, this is a big deal. World changing thinking. My shins will thank you for stopping me from kicking them (figuratively speaking, of course).

Nobody who wanders the world on the generosity of others has everything perfectly tied up. And neither does someone who jumps in the car to follow, ready and willing to leave her city behind. But that’s good. That’s what’s real.

They don’t devote every single moment of their lives to other people. They devote a lot, but not all of it. They’ve both stumbled through moments in their pasts and they’re both trying to figure out what they want in this world, but they know they’ve got God in the backseat, making sure everything is safe.

They have houses to crash at, friends to depend on, and love to hold onto and spread out. And you know what? If Jesus had a car thousands of years ago, you think he would’ve passed that up in favor of walking across the desert for 40 days? Yeah, didn’t think so.

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Six months ago, I fell in love. With the Internet.

Valentine’s Day, as a general rule, is pretty black and white. You love it or you hate it. For a solid 18 years, I hated it. Who wants to go to school and pass around cards and worry about getting any back?

My roommate’s been in a relationship for five years. Friday morning, she reveled in her ability to spend so much money at Target on red and pink cards, candy, and gourmet chocolate. And maybe a year ago, I might’ve nodded my head and then closed my bedroom door, drowning out the love with some Taylor Swift lyrics.

valentine's day 2009

I’ve only ever celebrated one Valentine’s Day. Complete with a path of rose petals embarrassingly lining my dorm hallway, a dark room lit only by heart-shaped candles, and the sounds of sappy love music in the background.

But this year, for some reason, it’s different. Some of my best friends are in long-term committed relationships. And I’m not.

My emotional well-being today is supposed to be determined by my relationship status on Facebook. And I’m not okay with that. No one should be.

valentine's day 2011

valentine's day 2011

Six months ago, I fell in love. With the Internet. I fell in love with the notion that you don’t have to be ten feet away from someone to know them and interact with them and love them. The notion that you don’t ever have to stand next to them to know that they are a part of your life and they have fundamentally changed you.

In the last 81 days, I have written 27 letters to 53 people. Most of them letters of love. Thank you notes sent to addresses in Pennsylvania, New York, New Jersey. Virginia, Ohio, North Carolina. Indiana, Wisconsin and Canada.

I am not a love letter champ, though. I am leaving that title for my dear friend Hannah, who wrote 250 love letters this fall and sent them out to people.

I am, however, a product of the love that stems from spreading your heart out on a piece of paper, splattering the words like flecks of paint for the world to take in and digest like a Pollock painting. I cannot describe to you how it feels to meet so many wonderful people in half a year and not feel upset that they’re not next door.

That’s what’s made Valentine’s Day a bearable concept. Knowing that out there, maybe a thousand miles away, someone knows my heart. They know it and they read it every week on a computer screen. The Internet has, quite literally, saved my life.

My hope is that all of you in this vast cyber world find a quick message of love in your e-mail inbox or your text message inbox. I hope that those of you who pray each day for a letter, a reminder that you are a soul who has affected this world, receive that letter today in some form or another. Typed or written. Spoken or recorded.

And if you’re searching for a Valentine, my heart’s open.

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